Am I being stupid/jealous?

What I am upset about: My husband won't add me to his myspace. He joined a few weeks back while we were having a HUGE fight %26amp; he didn't talk to me for a week. I guess he overheard me mention his new myspace during one of my phone convos, because the next day he made his myspace private. Before he made it private, he had several female friends on his page. No dudes. I don't know if they are girls he knows in real life or what. We've since made up but he still refuses to add me, defending his "deny request" as him only using myspace to "look up bands and otherstuff."

I'll admit, I've been feeling quite insecure lately because of a slight weight gain from being on birth control (which I have subsequently changed - and am working on losing the lbs!). I'm also the jealous type - I try not to be, but I won't deny that I don't get bitchy sometimes.

This isn't even about myspace, it's about my husband pretty much HIDING something from me. Ladies/Guys, how would you feel?

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There is something very wrong with this. You need to start detatching from this guy quickly and try to move on. 7 months is way too soon to have so many problems and for him to have cheated on you. Why did he make it private? Because he knows you found him on there and he's hiding something. Actually it sounds very childish and I'm not so sure he is ready for an adult commitment yet. I've never heard of such a thing. Why wouldn't he want to add you? Most all couples I know who are on Myspace are on each other's list and comment, send messages constantly.

p.s. Keep taking the birth control please for your sake. Maybe this is not your soulmate.

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I would feel jealous too. If he wasn't hiding anything from you he wouldn't have a problem adding you.

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He is probaly trying to cheat on you. If he is not letting you on there, the reason, is obvious, he is a cheater and no good jerk. Get a divorce and find someone worthy of your love.

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there is no reason other than he is hiding something from you NOT to add you..

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there is a lover in the picture... so move on...........

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the guy is having an affair. or thinking of having an affair. i know of one who does the same. good luck. the guy? he went to have an affair with our own officemate a few weeks after he introduced his wife to us!

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he doesnt respect, care or trust you.

i broke up with a guy who i went on one date with just because he wouldnt add me.

youre his wife for crying out loud.

he is trying to pick up chicks on myspace

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As others might agree, myspace is meant for dating couples. If you have anything to say, just say it to him directly. You are married and should be open to each other. Good luck.

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One question. How is any of this fair to you?

He shouldn't have anything to hide from you. If he were really just checking out bands, then why couldn't he add you?

Who do you think has more to lose by lying to you? His best friend or him?

You don't deserve any of this. Good luck.

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In all honesty...I'd be pissed. Why wouldn't he add you if it was as innocent as looking up bands. Speaking from experiance, I know that one main reason guys are on there is to flirt with women they've never met because it makes them feel like they have their "MOJO" back. It's just a game. I think he may need an ego boost and may not feel like he is getting the attention HE needs from you. BUT....big but here...But I also feel that it's a lack of respect when he is even on there UNLESS he adds you. What's the harm in letting you see his profile when there is nothing going on. On a side note, as crazy as this is, why don't you create a fake profile and see what he's saying, he'll add the stranger forsure but not you? Humm

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You should be the first person on his myspace. I think that maybe he doesn't want anyone to know that he is married. If he was not hiding anything then he would add you. Don' t worry i would be jealous too.

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"don't know how to approach the situation because he gets angry.."

approach it from several feet away. just go ahead AND DEAL WITH IT NOW!!!

Preferably with a large friend or relative

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First, how did you find out his Las Vegas fling if he only told his best friend? Why would HIS best friend tell you these things? Men usually stick together and defend each other.

Second, you have every right to be upset because if your husband has nothing to hide on myspace since he only use it to lok up bands and other stuff then why wouldn't he add you as a friend??? It's obviously you are not going to be added as you... Maybe you need to create an alias so you can be added to his myspace...

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You are not being stupid.

The signs are there, jealousy is a given and you have the right to be upset also.

If he's your husband theres shouldntbe anything to hid from you.

Since ur married youcant really just dump the guy, confront him and try to work things out if he refuses to tell the truth then do something and take it to another level cuhz hes asking for it.

Goodluck to you!

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Wow....

He sounds like an insensitive, rude, jerk.

While fighting over myspace can sound immature, there's a much larger issue behind it that needs to be dealt with. What's the harm in adding you? Would he like it if you had certain things you "hid" from him?

Besides, the myspace issue is nothing in comparison to the Vegas story. That's divorce-able activity. If he didn't cheat, why would he tell someone that he did? Shouldn't it be the other way around??

Bless your heart, sounds like you are in need of an AWESOME marriage counselor.... or a divorce lawyer.

Good luck. I hope things get better for you.

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why would his friend tell you something his friend told him?

Sounds like his friend is trying to end your marriage... hummm

anyway I agree with you he shouldn't have too hide his mysapce from you. But sometimes if you are too strong will in the marriage the guy can feel like he needs something to make him feel stronger than you. His myspace thing could give him that feeling of strength. You know you should focus on losing your weigth getting yourself together and try being a little more softer. Maybe then he'll be more open.

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girl, i just asked a similar question about a second ago....he's cheating.

leave him, now, before he makes a complete *** of you. he's probably upset over the weight gain...i gained weight because of a baby and my hubby is doing the same!....men are just jerks....they are grown-@ss three-year-olds and they can't be trusted!

-smartypants

ps

i wish you the best!...

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Honestly I dont think you guys should even be having a myspace, especially if he wont add you. Myspace has too much eye candy; its almost like porn and is unhealthy for married people. I would be totally bothered if my husband wouldnt add me. Thats so rude! He should see you as not just his wife, but his best friend. Also id definitely be upset about the whole vegas thing even though u dont know 4 sure. the fact that he makes u feel unsure and uneasy is enough to give u a right to be upset w/ him.

Sounds like youre married to a total jerk! Dont know all details, but sounds like an unhealthy marriage and u might just be better off w/out him. I had to do it and I Dont regret at all saving my dignity.

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You aren't supposed to be jealous but he maybe having an affair or thinking about having one...if not he would have no problem in adding you! Most proberly if he was thinking of having an affair he would put 'Looking for dates,Looking for girls etc' and wouldn't put 'Married' therefore the problem in adding you... I suggest you hiring a private investigator or something like that...you may even ask a close friend of your's thats not close to him to help you check if your husband is up to anything...

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Can't be more obvious than that.... I don't think you are imagining things. You are defending him-... the question is: what are you going to do about this situation? Just right now, I tried to find the word husband in your entry again- there it is,..... because I can't believe he is doing this to his wife.... and she is asking people what to do about it. I'm sorry to tell you that he wouldn't dare do this to me.... I'd kick him to the curb. Did you tell his parents... his relatives? Maybe they can help you make it clear to him that it's not okay what he is doing..... in the meantime leave him! A wake- up call will do him good at this point. Make it clear to him that he can't have it all: wife, child, and other women.

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Hey hun, I've been there... and yes all the signs are showing that he's cheating or getting ready to or already has. Quit defending him and telling yourself your the bad person. YOU"RE NOT!!! He is. If you continue to fall for this lie you'll continue to fall for more. It is the cycle of abuse. You already know what's going on, your just too scared to admit it to yourself, because you want to believe he really does love you and wouldn't do anything to hurt you; but girl face the facts. he is hurting you and he knows it. He will continue to play these games until he gets bored with you and moves on to the next nieve girl, or you decide you deserve better and move on. And believe me when he drops you, you will not be in his thoughts while your crying alone at night. Although I don't know you personally, please believe me when I say this won't stop...

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well i had that happen to me when my husband and I split up for a week and came to find out that he had a my space and he was on there as signal and looking for some one. worst part of it is that i find out about it through my friend that goes on there alot . i was really hurt and i know what you are going through but as for me i was able to see who he was talking to and had him cancel it . hate to say this but it sounds to me that he must be that he is cheating on you . my space is the worst thing ever made